No, You Can't Have It All!

Let's talk about Mohammed El-Erian. He was the CEO of an uber $2 trillion bond fund called PIMCO and earned more than $100 million per year. In January, he unexpectedly resigned. And the reason was to spend time with his 10-year old daughter. He prioritised all of his work over his family, until one day he chose the opposite. 

To achieve anything truly great requires some sacrifice. These days we all have "FOMO" or "Fear Of Missing Out." We tend to live a life where we want to become everything and not miss out on a single thing. Where we want to have it all. In olden days, people did not have all this. If one was a farmer, he knew all his life that farming is all he has to do and upgrade his skills in that particular field. Altogether there was nothing to miss out on. 

 Where Mark Mason wrote: “Have it all” — i.e., is it possible to be an all-star in your career and have a healthy family life and have cool and fun hobbies and be financially stable and have that sexy bikini body and cook organic soufflé in your underwear while buying beachfront property on your new iPhone 6, all at the same time? The answer to this is No! 

When we attempt to have everything in our lives, we tend to live a valueless life, a life where everything is equally gained and nothing lost. "When everything is necessary and desired equally, then nothing is necessary or desired at all." 

Screw Finding Your Happiness!

Often when you see Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg, you wonder how did they reach such great heights. Well, if we stop focussing on other's life and think about what we want to do, then even we can work towards a successful life. 

Many of times, you often wonder how to start work with something you love. More than how to, you wonder what to start with? Whats that one thing that you are passionate about? And how do you earn with this passion. Many of you stress over to search for your passion, but you just don't want to see it.  On a daily basis, you do something that you love, passion is right in front of you, you are doing it everyday, but you tend to close eyes. 

Everyday you dance, or everyday you scroll down on the social media only a few particular topics that excite you, everyday you try different cuisines, or you like cooking, or exercising etc. Something that you are doing everyday that's what your passion is. The problem is when you know that dancing is your passion and brings you happiness, you are scared to let go off your 9-5 job, you are scared to take the risk and start off with this passion. This is what it takes to become expert in what you love. Taking a leap of faith is very important to find your passion. To see if it beings you true happiness. To work day in and out to just achieve what you always wanted. 

Screw finding your passion because it's already in front of your eyes. Just have the guts to let go off the normal life you are living and run behind what you love doing. May be you might fail, not just once but many a times, but it's okay! That's the learning curve and slowly after much hard work, you will land into a successful and a stable life. 

Love is Not Enough!

One of the harsh truth about Love is, Love is not equal to compatibility. Well, you can fall in love with anyone, with any person. A person who is elder to your, or much younger, a person who screws around your happiness, who suck the blood out of you day in an out. You can fall in love with anyone. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. 

Love is like a blindfold. You just don't understand the difference where you are ill-treated or you are loved. You need to have faith and self respect for yourself first and not lose it in the name of the love. That's where a toxic relationship starts, where you think everything is fine because you are in love. Don't let love consume you completely that you cannot see what is happening around. When falling in love with anyone is normal, but choices we make after that is what matters. How we choose to handle it. 

Love is necessity. Love is amazing. Being in love, falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings. Having someone by your side always is so peaceful. Following your hobbies, doing what you like, or opting for a career you like is totally normal even when you are in love, you need not to change for a person who is intoxicated and a person who is suffocating you. Love is great. Love is beautiful. But Love is not enough.   

3 Healthy Relationship Habits that Make You Think Are Toxic!

Every couple wants a successful marriage or a successful relationship that brings them happiness. There are few habits we think are toxic but these are the habits that are healthy for the relationship. 

• Letting some Fights go Unresolved

Sometime you feel that solving all the problems are better and solving them immediately will make you guys happy. But maturity is when u realise there are few things that your partner will not change and accept it than ranting day in and day out and trying to solve it. There are few issues that will never have a solution and it is okay to just leave it. This small habit of letting go few things is the solution towards a healthy relationship. "Live and Let Live" is sometimes a couple can follow. 

• Being Willing to Hurt Each Other's Feelings

Never lie or fake any compliment or comment to your partner. Instead be straight face and tell them that this is not working. Even the smallest things like "How I am looking?" Should be answered honestly and the partner should be sport enough to take that and get upset for these small things. Yes, you care, but there are at time when you let your partner feel sad. It's all working towards a healthy relationship. 

• Accepting Your Partner's Flaws

Well, in the entire universe you will not find any soul is perfect. You will never find a perfect ideal match. The only truth to accept is every person has flaws. Everyone is defected in their own way. The beauty of a healthy relationship is to accept those flaws in your partner. Keeping in mind, you cannot force anyone to love you, you cannot force anyone to change unless they want to on their own. So it's better you find a person whose flaws are fine and you can accept it and live with it. 


Like what Mark Mason said "It may be our perfections that attract one another. But it’s our imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not."

Stop Trying To Be Happy

If you are trying to be popular, then you will never be popular. If you are trying to be funny, you will never be able to make anyone laugh. Likewise, if you are seeking to be happy always, you will never be happy. The problem these days is people are trying too hard to be someone else, or trying hard to achieve something extraordinary. 

Happiness is not something to be learned or to be tried. Happiness is something we need to live in, we need to inhabit it. You cannot buy happiness or achieve happiness. You need to get all the things in your life in place to be happy. 

Happiness is not materialistic. Buying a new car, going for parties or watching Netflix. These are not the things that will make you happy. Even though these are very pleasant and an easy way. Happiness is when you finish a trek, when you finish a marathon, when u have worked day in and out and finally gained the desired body. These unpleasant and hard working instances are the ones that make you feel proud of yourself and gives you inner happiness. 

Happiness lies within us; being positive makes you happy. Well, these statements are just too hollow. Mark Mason wrote in one of his blogs, "It's not that happiness itself is in you, it’s that happiness occurs when you decide to pursue what’s in you." Don't try To Be Happy but Just Be Happy.